Bad Eyesight or Life Behind Blurry Glass

“Dad, buy me a dog!”
“Mom, let's get a kitten”
“Look, what a cute rabbit, let's take it home, please!”

Parents do their best to refuse such requests because they understand that they will have to take care of the pet themselves. There are a lot of books written about children’s communication with animals including books on Psychology. It goes without saying that any contact with nature and animals brings joy to any child. However, there will be added duties such as walking, feeding, taking care and looking after a pet, all of which help to cultivate a young naturalist's responsibility, feeling of duty, and discipline. This makes him feel empathy with a living being.

It is rare when parents think that a pet can die. A child will experience tears, tragedy, and sadness, but usually forget within a few days. An extremist will buy another one, which  is what happens in the most cases.

However, there are special children whose eyesight becomes weak after the loss of a pet. It is difficult to notice at an early age, especially if the eyesight decrease is subtle. It usually comes to light at the pre-school age or in the beginning of school when a child starts learning to read and write. By that point, nobody thinks about the reasons and, moreover, don’t connect it with pet loss. In this article, we describe what those special children are like, what to do if you have one and they ask you to buy a pet for them, and how to avoid the reactions that can traumatize the visual vector. 

A person with the visual vector has particularly sensitive eyes. It is he who discerns 400 shades of black and in a developed state can catch any of your emotions. He is very emotional no matter what age. He is dewy-eyed and  ready to cry at a moment’s notice.

During his childhood, he is inquisitive. He loves to look around and feast his eyes on nature, beautiful pictures and toys. He personifies them. Figurative intellect and fertile imagination allow him to think up imaginary friends and sincerely believe that they are alive.

Such a child personifies his toys, plays and talks to them, gives them names and creates stories about them. He is very emotionally flexible so he can move from tears to laughter in a moment. He brightly expresses his feelings, loves to communicate and make friends.

The biggest pleasure for a child with the visual vector is to create an emotional connection. When he is little, he creates emotional connections with his toys, characters from books and cartoons. In the process of getting mature when development is adequate, vegetative and animalistic nature fall into the background and communication with people is pushed into the forefront.

A pet can become the dearest friend for the visual child with whom he shares all his joy and sadness with and who he loves with all his heart creating a strong emotional connection.

But, is it good? Not really. This type of connection isn't always formed when there is not enough emotional connection with a mother. The sensitive, vulnerable and emotional child needs (more than others) to share his feelings, emotional experiences. They need to receive responses and participation from his mother as well as the people closest to him. 

It is often easier for a mother to buy a rabbit or a hamster than to find time to communicate with a child. He loves his pet and his mom has time to finish her own business. However, the price for such a comfort is too high.

The first sad event that happens is a pet's death. This is how it works... Even dogs live for 20 years maximum not to mention cats, rabbits and parrots. When a child's pet, whom he created emotional connections with and loved, dies, he starts losing eyesight.

The rupture of emotional connection leads to a scary and hostile world for visual child. The natural fear of death gets stronger and stronger. He is scared, suffering, and doesn't want to see or feel the bad side of life. Thus, a delicate natural mechanism starts. All the damage is taken in by the visual vector to protect the psyche. In other words, a pet's death doesn't affect the development of the psychic qualities of a visual child, but may weaken his eyesight. 

The answer to the question, “How can I avoid eyesight loss in a visual child?” is simple if one has knowledge of System-Vector Psychology. A visual child has to be developed.

The saddest thing is that because of the lack of emotional connection with people and focusing his potential on animals, a visual child doesn't develop to the highest level. It means he will experience a lot of fears and panic instead of love.

Make a room with colorful or white wallpaper that a young artist can draw on and give him different paints for his creative expression. Send him to a drama school where he can experience the feelings of different characters and make other people feel.  

Avoid scary pictures, especially where animals eat each other. Don't read scary fairy tales and poems where characters die or are eaten by monsters. It makes a child focus on a state of fear and interferes with the vector development.

Fairy tales and cartoons, which make a child experience empathy with characters, stimulate a harmonic development of the visual vector in the direction of compassion, which is the desire to help and support others.

In order to further understand the process, it is necessary to know that there are four levels of development in every vector: inanimate, vegetative, animal and human levels. It is important to go through all these stages as fast as possible.

Now it is necessary to remember that the development of vector qualities occurs before the end of puberty at ages of 12-15. After that, there is only the realization of qualities by level according to development. There is very little time.

It is necessary to go with a child fast and confidently through the whole cycle of the development: from the compassion of a teddy bear to the care of plants, the poor flowers who can die without water and bend their heads, to the compassion of an elephant (in a zoo) who has never been free and perhaps hasn't even seen other elephants. You want to reach the peak, which is compassion for other people.

It is impossible to overvalue the role of a mother who can create all the conditions of emotional tension. When a mother, because of compassion and empathy (not because of hysterics and the desire to attract attention to herself) has tears in her eyes, a child experiences a new and strong feeling, which he learns to feel himself.

The real actions, like visiting an elderly lady together, making tea for the sick or calming a crying sister in a corner, are very important for a visual child's development.

A strong emotional connection with a mother provides a child with feelings of safety and protection with which he can overcome any kind of emotional experience.

This type of upbringing provides a visual child with maximum development in the direction of love, but not fear. A child receives an instrument to work with his feelings; an ability to overcome any fear when he's an adult.

The visual child, at the ages of 4 -5, who learned to feel and share love with other people, won't be scared of monsters from fairy tales, movies, and cartoons. They will be able to laugh at it.

Compassion, empathy, and an ability and desire to help others are the main qualities that have to be developed in a visual child in order to maintain his psychological health and protect his sensitive eyes.